Change. It’s hard. Many of us rebel against it. Sometimes it can be exciting, though. It brings new things into our lives. Often, we know nothing about what’s coming and when we don’t know something, we can become fearful. Even when it is exciting, we can be apprehensive about the unknown. We tend to feel like we need to know in order to feel in control. It makes us feel secure.

I once heard some great advice: Give yourself permission to not be in control.

Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that we can’t and don’t control, or know, everything. It’s ok if we don’t have it all figured out or have our hands in every situation.


a). God has total control so we don’t need to. Trust him. He knows what you are going through. He already knows the outcome. Keep seeking Him and He will take care of everything. The key is to be willing to follow His plan, not ours. It’s ok not to understand His actions or answers, but we do need to trust and follow Him.

b). We are meant to rely on others. We were made for community. We can’t do life alone and expect to have a full and satisfying life. And I think this goes beyond a significant other. We need groups of people to come alongside us in all times of life, not just the hard times.

I’ve found both of these to be true in my life. I’ve also learned, if I am constantly seeking after a relationship with Christ and striving to follow what He wants for my life, there is nothing I can do to screw up His ultimate plan for me.

Let me say that again:

If you are actively following God, there is nothing you can do to screw up His plan for you.

Take comfort in this. Sure, your choices may change the path you take, but that won’t make it the wrong choice. Or maybe you’ve hit some rough times between you and God. If you have made amends, work everyday to have a relationship with Him, and do your best to follow Him going forward, He will put you back on the path He has for you.

I’m losing my job. That’s a big change with many unknowns. My current place of employment is closing and I will be without a job very shortly. It’s scary to think about what the atmosphere and people will be like at my new job (when I find it). I’m also concerned with money. Will we be ok on my unemployment? My husband and I are hoping to find a place of our own later this year. Will my unemployment affect what we’ve saved for a down payment? It took me forever to find my current job, my first full time job. What will happen if I don’t find one quickly? Many, many what ifs.

Despite all these unknowns, I have peace. I know it will work out. God has always taken care of me, even financially. We also have friends and family to support us. We know they have our backs with prayer or meeting other needs where possible. So even if I don’t find something as fast as I’d like, I know I and my husband will be just fine.

This may be the opportunity needed to put me right where God wants me.

What are some lessons you’ve learned through change? What has God revealed to you?



For quite some time now, I’ve had a deep desire to find my place in God’s Kingdom and to be useful.  To know I’m right where I’m meant to be. But how?  One answer was volunteer somewhere.  One place kept popping up in my mind but I kept dragging my feet. First, the excuse was their limited volunteer hours.  Second, I didn’t want to give up my free time.  

How lame is that? Here I am asking God what I can do and I’m coming up with excuses to his suggestions.  I’m not so busy that an hour or two out of my time will hurt.  And my other obligations eventually cleared up allowing me to make their open volunteer times.

What am I so afraid of?  Why should we fear any answer God may give us?

Well, His answers could mean change or taking responsibility.  It could mean complications or challenges.  We are even afraid of the success and fulfillment God’s answer might bring. We are also afraid of failure and letting God and ourselves down.  

Fear is the ultimate deterrent and can disguise itself.  It’s probably Satan’s greatest weapon against us because it can strengthen any weakness or personal wound we have.  It can easily undermine our resolve and catch us off guard.

The good news: God can and will use us wherever we are in life, whatever we may or may not have done, whatever weakness we may have. We just need to be willing.  

The tough news: To be fully effective and efficient in what God wants, we need to learn to fight the fears that hold us back.  We need to learn to recognize them for what they are. We need to seek the truth.  Even if it’s just a tiny nudge forward, it counts.

The second answer God gave me was start a blog.  I thought about this and became excited.  I even built a webpage, picked out a name, and started a topic list.  Then the feet dragging began again.  I know I have some good thoughts and personal lessons to share. I know I could be helpful to others in sharing these things.  But I began to be afraid. What if no one read or responded? What if I couldn’t think of enough topics to keep it going.  Would it be worth it?  And even, what if it became successful?

Crazy, right?  The more I think about it, the more I see where the fear is and that it’s trying to keep me from moving forward.  This is proof that I am meant to volunteer and write a blog and in doing so, I will be useful to God’s kingdom.  

And that’s the last thing Satan wants.  So I push forward.

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